Inspirations for Writing my Books

I had been teaching Bible studies on base chapel's for a few years. One thing I really noticed was that Bible studies where not really aiming at issues that the military ladies where having. This became a goal of mine, to write material that would help military ladies deal with the issues in their lives.

The other thing I began to notice, as the war trudged on, was that military marriages were slowly falling apart. Although Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) was an issue, with the ladies around me, the main issue was the wife's attitude towards her place before, during and after the deployment. Many civilians do not realize that it is not just the deployment that is stressful. There are the work-ups, then the deployment, followed by the stand-down period. The stress of being in charge, not in charge, he is gone, he is back, can just literally wear on you. Before you know it, the wife has developed a bitter or resentful attitude. This attitude is often small and could be thought of as justified or normal.

Hopefully, this book will help the wife refocus her attitude and help her understand that as a military wife, she is serving God and country, also. God warns us not to give the devil a foothold in our lives. I believe the military lifestyle leaves cracks in the family lives that the devil will slither through, if we are not careful. Placing God as the center of your life will help the military spouse become successful in her marriage. We are all called to walk different paths in this life. Some of these paths are greatly difficult. God has plans for you. Are you ready for His future?

One day when I was working out, singing to my praise and worship music, the Holy Spirit brought to my mind the opening page to The Fat Pretty One.

Christianity is like people.

Some are fat.

Some are skinny.

Some are ugly.

Some are pretty.

In Christ's terms this means:

Some are so full of the Lord they overflow.

Some are so starved for the Lord they make you hurt to look at them.

Some are full of hate and resentment.

Some glow with the love of God.

We all come in different shapes and sizes. The difference though, is one you are born with and the other, your rebirth, is a choice.

How do you choose to allow the world to see you?

I literally had to stop my work out and write the words down. Never in my life did I look at my faith walk in this manner. As ladies, we all, in some manner, are concerned with our appearance. That was why I was working out but I never looked at exercising my faith walk. My physical appearance became more important then my spiritual appearance.

At no point, am I discounting the importance of presenting yourself in a proper manner or keeping yourself healthy. I am just pointing out the importance of your spiritual appearance. How many beautiful people have you met that were bitter and hateful? How many not so "beautiful" people have you met that have been an absolute joy to be around? As Christians, our draw in society should be our actions towards people, not are physical appearance. People should be able to look at a Christian and say, "I want what they have." Our very lives should be our testament to God. It will not be our talk or a one-time event that will attract society to God. What will attract society is that daily grind; we call life and how we daily behave during that grind that should bring glory to God.

My prayer is that this book will bring ladies to understand that ugly comes from our sinful behaviors. Our beauty is a reflection of God in our lives. Make a choice on how society sees you. I personally want to be the fat, pretty one.